great writing! "You can optimize a human body toward the numbers of an eighteen-year-old and still, apparently, hollow out the human who has to live inside it." is a killer line. i honestly had to learn this firsthand through grief - i thought if i did certain things or survived certain milestones i could have a timeline that i'd understand as to when i felt better, but i realized that you really can't control how your emotions fluctuate and the only way out is to experience them and understand them. i think we often create these goals because emotion and humanity can be hard to understand and goals feel quantifiable and achievable. but you're right that the experience of being human is supposed to be messy, and that it's easy to get lost in striving for something when it's really the journey that makes it meaningful. great article!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think what you said about grief gets to the heart of what I was trying to explore.♡
There are so many things in life that don't follow a timeline, no matter how badly we want them to. Grief, healing, love, creativity, even becoming ourselves. We can optimize our routines and organize our calendars, but we can't schedule our humanity lol
I really resonate with what you said about goals feeling safer because they're quantifiable. There's comfort in believing we can measure our way through uncertainty... but some experiences ask us to surrender control, be present with what we're feeling, and trust the process even when it doesn't make sense
Thank you for reading and for adding such a thoughtful perspective to the conversation. ♡
fuck yeah. it's great. i love this lens on optimization.
Thank you Greg!♡
great writing! "You can optimize a human body toward the numbers of an eighteen-year-old and still, apparently, hollow out the human who has to live inside it." is a killer line. i honestly had to learn this firsthand through grief - i thought if i did certain things or survived certain milestones i could have a timeline that i'd understand as to when i felt better, but i realized that you really can't control how your emotions fluctuate and the only way out is to experience them and understand them. i think we often create these goals because emotion and humanity can be hard to understand and goals feel quantifiable and achievable. but you're right that the experience of being human is supposed to be messy, and that it's easy to get lost in striving for something when it's really the journey that makes it meaningful. great article!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think what you said about grief gets to the heart of what I was trying to explore.♡
There are so many things in life that don't follow a timeline, no matter how badly we want them to. Grief, healing, love, creativity, even becoming ourselves. We can optimize our routines and organize our calendars, but we can't schedule our humanity lol
I really resonate with what you said about goals feeling safer because they're quantifiable. There's comfort in believing we can measure our way through uncertainty... but some experiences ask us to surrender control, be present with what we're feeling, and trust the process even when it doesn't make sense
Thank you for reading and for adding such a thoughtful perspective to the conversation. ♡
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